We’ve all heard of hypersexuality in adults, but few people are aware that it can exist in teenagers as well. For most teenagers, being hypersexual can be a phase that passes naturally. But for others, it’s indicative of an underlying issue that needs to be addressed with the help of therapy and counseling.
Here are some ways to help hypersexual teenagers and their families deal with the issue effectively.
Stay Updated and Educated About Current Happenings
There is a lot of content available online that can help keep you updated on the current issues among teenagers with hypersexual behavior. If you dig around a bit, you will see how we, as adults, can help teenagers on their journey. Take some time to familiarize yourself with what hypersexual teenagers go through and be on alert for any signs that your teenager may be struggling with their sexual desires. From here, you will know what steps to take next.
Talking to your kids is also a very important thing because you’ll get to hear their opinions about things. Being their parent should always be your priority, but being their friend as well can help them overcome obstacles and challenges teenagers usually have.
If needed, seek out professional help from counselors or therapists who specialize in these situations. Many online counseling services offer virtual sessions where they discuss important topics like these over video chat or even phone calls. It might not be a traditional setting, but it could get you talking to someone who can relate to your situation. The most important thing is getting started as soon as possible.
Engage Yourself in Your Child’s Activities
By engaging in your child’s activities, you’ll also get a firsthand look at how they behave. This will give you an opportunity to better understand what challenges they might be facing, and most importantly, how to help them.
For example, if you notice that your kid seems overly concerned with fitting in with a particular group of peers, then it’s likely they are feeling some pressure about sex — pressure that shouldn’t be ignored. In situations like these, it’s important for parents to take action and engage themselves by guiding their children throughout their decision-making.
Consider sitting down and talking with them about safe sex practices. Make sure to emphasize that nothing is more important than ensuring proper sexual health. If anything changes, don’t ignore it (e.g., new friends, change in grades). If you feel your child has a problem and is becoming hypersexual, keeping up with their activities and engaging yourself might be the help they need.
Teach Sex-Ed to Your Children
The thing that has led to so many hypersexual teenagers around the world is the fact that parents try to avoid talking about sensitive topics such as sex with their kids. Not only do the parents feel uncomfortable, but teenagers feel the same way when their parents try to talk to them about the birds and the bees.
Helping hypersexual teenagers is all that more difficult if you don’t already have an established relationship where you can talk comfortably about uncomfortable subjects such as sex. Starting early is key and can help you build a great relationship with your kid that will help them overcome all the challenges that they’ll face once they’re a teenager.
The best way to help hypersexual teenagers is to teach them sex-ed yourself. While there are plenty of age-appropriate ways to do so, it’s important that your approach is educational and not judgmental or shaming.
Being open and honest with them is crucial, even if you don’t know a ton about what they’re going through. Kids are often more apt to confide in their parents if they feel as though they can trust them. So, try your best to be supportive and non-judgmental throughout the process. It may seem impossible, but if you can put yourself in their shoes, you’ll find that it’s much easier than you think.
Do Not Judge Them
When dealing with hypersexual teenagers, do not judge them for their behaviors. Sometimes when we look at people acting in a way that is unfamiliar, we tend to judge rather than help. But if we become more understanding and less judgmental, teenagers will be more likely to open up about what they are going through and how you can help them.
Some hypersexual teenagers may be engaging in behavior they know is not right, but they feel as though they have no control over their actions. Others might think that what they are doing is perfectly normal and don’t realize that their behaviors are considered unhealthy.
Regardless of why your teenager is acting out sexually, it is important to remember that you need to approach them with an open mind and a sincere desire to help. Only then will your teenager be able to trust you enough and develop an open line of communication with you that can lead to recovery from hypersexuality.
Encourage Them to Seek Professional Help
Unfortunately, research has shown that too many parents and guardians don’t talk with their kids about sex. In fact, just 38 percent of high school students report that they’ve ever discussed it with their parents.
That lack of communication can lead to teenagers making dangerous decisions. When in doubt, consider asking your teen how they view sex and determine whether there’s a risk that your child could develop an unhealthy attitude toward sexual activity.
If so, seek professional help immediately. There are many treatment options available for hypersexual teenagers. They can make all the difference in helping a young person get back on track.
Also, teenagers who spend time with their families have healthier attitudes about sex than those who don’t. In fact, high school students who spent less time with their parents were more likely to believe it was okay for young people to have casual sex with strangers.
Clearly, there’s a link between quality family relationships and better sexual decision-making skills. And while it might seem like fun and games, it could encourage them to engage in risky behavior. If you’ve already noticed something amiss but can’t get them to open up, encourage them to seek professional help.
Have a Steady Communication With Your Child
Communication is key, especially when you’re talking about a sensitive topic like sex. Start talking about sex early and keep those conversations going over time. The earlier you start, the more chances you have of changing your child’s attitudes toward sex and developing an understanding that it’s not just for fun but also for staying healthy and making babies.
It can be difficult, especially if your child doesn’t have a good way to talk about anything private but try your best not to sugarcoat or censor anything. Give your child as much information as possible so he or she can make informed decisions in order to prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and unplanned pregnancies.
It’s better to teach kids safe-sex practices than nothing at all. Teaching abstinence without giving your child sound advice on how STDs are spread is generally a disservice. Another approach is to only teach them about contraception methods like condoms after your teen has already had unprotected sex because learning about birth control only helps some teens delay sexual activity rather than curb risky behavior entirely.